the world according to sherimaven

Good morning, Tuesday. It's soupy outside and I'm feeling the beginnings of summer malaise setting in- and it's only June. Ugh. I'm not a hot and humid girl. I have the vapors, and it's legit.

But besides the frizzy weather, I was listening to an amazing story last night on the radio (yes I listen to the radio) about Uber's valuation of (get ready for it) 18.2 billion dollars. 18.2 BILLION. Holy. Shit. That's a lot of cash for a young iPhone app, right? 

The story said that Uber is now worth more than Hertz and Avis combined. When you look on the surface, it's hard not to scratch your head when you think about this- how on Earth could an App for a luxe real time car service be worth more than two tried and true war horses like Hertz and Avis? The reason is fairly simple, and not so revolutionary anymore- the valuation is based not on what the company is today, but what the company could become, in the future. In the tech world when smart people become millionaires and more commonly billionaires overnight, it's not because of what they have to offer in real time- think of Dr. Dre and Beats- Apple bought that company because they have something that Apple surely lacks for sure, but it's more about what Beats and Dre. could do for Apple in the future- from wireless headphones to changing the face of iTunes (when's the last time you listened to anything on there? Hmm? Thought so). 

But back to Uber, of whose brand I am a fan, despite bloated surge pricing. It's a great idea and speaks to something bigger happening not just in New York City, but also in society. You may look at Uber and wonder how people are willing to pay such a premium for not much more than a taxi, but really it's not about that. The story I listened to shed light on the topic and said that model is not the one that will make Uber even more successful, but the notion of automated/ driverless cars will take them to another level. Because todays' young people don't have the same passion for driving and cars that we once did- there's going to be a time (in our lifetimes and soon) when services like Uber will be taking your kids to school, picking up your groceries, and driving you to dinner parties or job interviews. And in a NY Times piece about it, Andrew Ross Sorkin (who also mentioned the valuation may be too low) also mentioned how Uber could completely change shipping forever due to its powerful understanding of urban areas and grid systems. Regardless of whether this is all sounding completely too insane, the future for a company whose fiscal well being is steeped in transport has a huge opportunity, and that's where the valuation lies- in something that is not yet in our vernacular but will soon be a seamless part of our lives- robotic powered cars. (As someone who hates driving, this is quite the news). 

But it's not the bit about nonhuman whips that had me riveted to this story; it was more about the kind of thinking that was happening in the world of finance and business. The very notion of future valuation and projection is no longer a conservative one- and though certainly not foolproof, I think that companies that can demonstrate the ability to revolutionize the way we do things in our everyday lives are going to be (more than) in the chips. Now how do we take this future thinking into our own lives? That's the big question.

To me, the best companies will hire you not because of what you've done, but because of what you will do in the future. How cutting edge are you? How much can you stretch your experience and insight to completely change the game? Where will you take your team in the years to come? These are things every smart organization should think about, but in a more human sense, we should think of ourselves this way.

If you begin to think about what your offer is and how you can capitalize your own unique journey into something revolutionary, then there's no stopping you. Because in order to move forward in life, love, or career, you need to think of yourself in a forward motion kind of way- you may be valued right now for what you do, but if you think about how you could parlay that into something much bigger or ahead of the pack, imagine how far you could go. I have a strong feeling that all of us really need to start thinking about the future in a very different way- how can we harness what we've done into something with a lot more equity? I'm not sure I know the answer yet, but I love that I'm being forced to ask the question. And true, life and business are different things, but innovation is something we should be thinking about in both to provide a more rich experience all around. It's true we are all trying to live more mindful and "present" lives (be here nowish), but it's hard to not think about the future, particularly when you are trying to craft big change.

With change happening so fast, it's very hard to even think about what's coming or what's to be. But if more people started being more forward thinking when it comes to assessing our vast and limitless potentials, we could get a lot done. And maybe bring about change that we so desperately need; and you just can't put a price on that.  When we all start thinking about the possibilities and get fearless and creative, the opportunities are endless. To be successful these days, you have to take some very big leaps to get to the next level.

Cause that's what's up this assessment of a Tuesday in the 212.  Yours, in projected self worth. XO

Good afternoon, Monday. It's gloomyville outside and it's apparently going to rain the whole week until the weekend. Oh well...don't mind- at work anyway so a good chance to hunker down and get it done.

So for those of you who don't work in advertising, it behooves me to tell you about the huge event that happens every year in June, the Cannes Advertising Festival. It's a massive, global awards show that went a bit south for a minute (no pun intended, even though the fest is in the South of France) or two during the more austere years following 2008, but I can't help and feel it's back, and in a big way.  All the muckety mucks from the ad game the world over go there for a week and drink tons of rose and meet each other and air kiss and congratulate each other on work well done. To me, it sounds like an absolute horreur but that's just me, and a story for another time- all I can say is I've never been much of a joiner.

And though I've never been,  I've seen endless Facebook feeds and social media moments live from the big event, and I've often thought about what's important when it comes to big industry events like this- no, NO- not the work, sillies. THE CLOTHES. Darling, you gotta look good. You're with 7 gazillion of your colleagues in the chicest country ever and you're going to phone it in? No. No you're not.

For those of you biting off your gel mani right now because you're experiencing packing induced panic attacks between a zillion meetings and conference calls, fear not. I've got you.

Not only would I be happy to take any of you shopping (just call me) for this soiree, but I'm just sure as merde you've got some great pieces already in existence in your jam packed closet. So here's to a little inspiration, of the Jane Birkin variety- to me she epitomizes what dressing for the South of France (with very creative peers) should be- sexy, a mix of tomboy/femme pieces, and effortless. Jane's (non)French icon status gives hope to the rest of us- Jane is, after all, a Brit, who happened to be the muse and love of Serge Gainsbourg, and nobody's more French than that guy (I should know, I read his biography while in Paris). 

So I've clipped some of my fav looks of hers to share with all of vous- sure there's some risky business happening (you may want to wear a bra or put a slip under some of these), but the idea is way, way there.

If you ask yourself- self- WWJD (Hint- the J bit does not stand for Jesus), you're going to be right as la pluie. Here's what you need to do the Jane:

Loosely constructed silk button down- Equipment makes a fabulous version of this. I'd stick to cream- very pretty around the face.

Crocheted something- a crocheted dress gives you that awesome rock and roll hippie vibe that is sexy, pretty, and perfect. If you go the bare route, try it with a bathing suit underneath, and if you're feeling like having all of your coworkers see all the good stuff is too much, then do a slip underneath.

Layered gold necklaces- I never ever pack without these. They just make me feel better. And they'll make you feel better too- if you do pack them, put them in a jewelry box wrapped around something like cardboard, cotton, or some other fiber that will ensure you don't spend your whole trip trying to unknot them. Trust me, I've been there.

Short shift dresses- if you have great legs, go to there. With gladiator sandals. Do it.

Wide leg jeans- the kind with exposed pockets in the front if you want to really pay homage, as you should. In denim and/or white.

Men's inspired trousers- With a pleat. Tricky tricky but so doable- if not that, go for a men's khaki. From the men's department. And paper bag the waist with a great brown belt. Chic.

Simple round neck tees- Can't muck this up- go with Petit Bateau- so cute and great in colors (non colors) like black, navy, or white.

Striped tank- A must. With jeans or pants or shorts. 

A party dress with movement and/or sparkly bits- I live for that shimmy shimmy ya number she's rocking with Serge or that low riding sequin gorgeousness, but if that's too much just get something fun for evening that could take you anywhere. And wear it with flats to be super chic and French.

Straw hat- Le duh.

Peasanty top- Gauzy tops are great for over bathing suits, with shorts, with jeans. So easy to pack too. Parfait.

Flats, and lots of them- From gladiators to simple strappy sandals to ballets. Way easier to kick off after too much rose and way stuffed suitcase friendly. 

And one last thing- don't forget a great straw bag like Jane always wore. Hers was very baskety, but everyone from Kate Spade to Free People does a great straw bag each Summer, so go for yours. And really if you need me to help you pack, I'm here for you as always. Oh, and if you think Adweek or Ad Age has a need to report on all the fun fashion and street style, tell them to hire me to do so- I promise to take your picture, if, and only if, you look fabulous (of course you will). 

Here's to awards season, and all of the gorgeous and smart and wonderful women in the industry. This is my little pay it forward moment- we all must do what we can. And that's what's up this rainy Monday in the very unsCanneslike Manhattan. Yours, in awards season chic, topped off with loads of champagne and fabulous French style.  XO.

Good morning, Thursday. It's raining here in the city and soupy in the office and I'm just all "yea, whatever".  Thank goodness a vendor sent me some candy or I'd be really falling apart. This is the type of day only chocolate and a sweet 90s R&B diva playlist can fix.

So last night I went to a really fun party with some friends in the industry (other producer types and photographers) on a gorgeous rooftop in Chelsea. It was just one of those nights that affirms the importance of a)making a point to be social and b) that there are great people in the world just about everywhere you look. There were some lovely peeps out, the food was delicious, and the drinks were flowing (vodka and fresh lime juice- maybe the perfect summer drink- simple and delicious). It's nice to see people you've done so much work with- who know you in the fun times and the stressful times. And so many had lovely things to say about this here blog, which warms my heart more than anything.

So last night I ran into a new friend whose style is pretty much synced up with me in a way that feels familial. We talked about leather button down shirts (I'm on the fence but if anyone can rock that look, she can) and leather jackets (oxblood or black? DARK MIDNIGHT BLUE.). And then we got on the subject of the perfect tee shirt, as girls do. I am sure all of you out there have a favorite cut, brand, and color. For me, a basic black tee is EVERYTHING. Right now I'm very much digging on the sexy appeal of a muscle tee- I like the peek of shoulder and the sleeveless is great under jackets in the summer time- somehow it's a cooler slouchier silhouette under a lightweight blazer. Instant classic- makes me feel almost as happy as writing this blog does- comfy, cool, and just right. Mr. Wang keeps making this tee shirt every season (thank the Fashion gods above), so he must be aware of its instant status as a great LBT.

And if you buy only one tee shirt this summer, and I do mean only one, you have to get this one by Alexander Wang. It's the slub tee shirt (it has a bit of "grain" in the fabric)- a rayony, silky confection of a tee that is neither too tight or too revealing. It's subtly sheer so it's sexy with a black bra underneath and it's slouchy enough to give you that rock and roll tomboy vibe that I love so much with a boyfriend jean or short and a blazer and skinny pants. The neckline is pretty and not too low or too high, and the shape of this tee is fabulous- I love its eased up loose vibe for Summer. PS- my very chic friend agreed- this is the pick of the litter when it comes to the best basic around. Oh, and don't think I don't know it's expensive- at just about $100 it's not cheap, but like i said, you're just buying ONE. And really, this tee is cool enough to function as more of a top- it's that good.

And that's all I've got for now. You've got your marching orders- go forth and buy this fabulous little item. You're welcome.

Cause that's what's up this muscle tee'd Thursday in the 212. Yours, in basic black goodness.

Good afternoon, pals. Lovely day in NY- warm but not too mucked out. I'll take it. Hopefully the storm will wait till long after I get home from meeting up with some fun peeps tonight on a rooftop in Chelsea.

So I got caught in the rain last night and it was the worst. It was a Miami style downpour- the kind that an umbrella is useless against and no matter what you do, you end up drenched. Sigh. So much for that good hair day.

As I boarded the train, I looked around at all of those poor little faces- all of us had gotten caught in that storm apparently and none of us were too happy about it. Some were in more advanced states of soaked in goodness than others, but one thing's for sure when it comes to the women of New York- the nails- they're done. Always.

In this city, women are sexy, successful, and super stylish- oh and STRESSED. There's a lot going on and there's very little time to do it. Yet somehow, many, many of us manage to squeeze in a manicure. Though we all have different styles and looks there is a huge consensus that we like our nails done, and Lord knows there's no shortage of nail spots (in my neighborhood alone there is the cheap place, the quick place, the expensive place, the place that takes a really long time but does a great job), and even though I lived in Miami and got my nails done on the regs, it just wasn't the same, and it was way too expensive. Honestly, the only thing cheap about living here is getting your nails done, and that's a fact. It's a perk of living here.

So looking down at my own nails last night, I realized I was in a bad way, so I marched myself over to the long time spot in my 'hood. Loving the color, a favorite right now- Essie's Topless and Barefoot (oy), a color from 2011 that is still looking fab- it's a pinky/beigeish hue and a great neutral- would look fab on the toes too (I'm liking a neutral toe of late). 

Believe me, if you are a well turned out nail type you know the difference between Marshmallow, Ballet Slippers, and Mademoiselle. This color would suit fans of all of the above, it's slightly less girly and more of a nice take on a buffed look. Adore it.  It's the little things that make me happy.

Having a manicure is good for the soul- it's half hour away from all the noise and it never makes you rethink your gym game or adoration for City Bakery cookies. It's just a perfect little dip into indulgence and think most of us feel that way- sometimes I'm antsy and hate sitting there, but most of the time, I'll take a quick beauty respite that's under $20 any day of the week, come rain or come shine.

Cause that's what's up this well manicured Wednesday in the 212. Yours, in quick dry. XO

Good afternoon, Tuesday. It's hot in the city today and I feel a little melty. I'm Victorian when the temps go above 80 degrees- those vapors are a real bitch. I am not a fan of hot weather at all- after all- I'm a girl who wears basic black most days so the heat is not my pal.

But besides the heat, let's just talk about how two of my style icons, Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen, won a CFDA Award last night. Many people can't get past their turn as twins on the now very scarily dated "Full House", but I myself find them to be two of the chicest women and are amazing testaments to the power of American style. Their effortless looks that are ALWAYS somehow super luxe yet casual are just beyond. In many ways, I feel the Olsens represent a feminism you would not expect from sitcom twins- their use of restraint and never showing "too much" with their outsized silhouettes and love of modesty are big winners with women today- for so many of us that juggle work, family, and a million things in between, the last thing we want is to be popping out of this or muffin topping over that. MK and Ashley really, truly understand women, and their maturity as designers is super impressive, as they are only 27 years old. At that age, many women feel the need to show it all (hello, Rihanna. I can't even talk about your ridiculous get up last night) and seek attention for their over the top sexiness. I'm not opposed to showing off, but I really admire women that show some restraint- that's just my thing- sexy comes in many forms, after all.  And though for a time it seemed Mary Kate, the more bohemian of the two sisters when it comes to dress, was trying to hide her body image issues under layers and layers of baggy clothes and triple vente Starbucks cups, it seems she's turned it around and now dresses in a way that celebrates confidence as opposed to hiding behind big sweaters. I love her style, and I adore her sister Ashley's nod to classics- from crisp white shirts to pulled back hair to aviator sunglasses- she's always perfection.  (Younger sis and actress Elizabeth Olsen is no slouch in the fashion department- she always looks fab and is consistently best dressed). Oh, and best of all? These girls LOVE all black everything, much like me. They do deviate from time to time, but not that often. These are women cut from my cloth, and for many New York women, these two get it right- wearing black in New York is almost a cliche at this point, but it just works, and that's that. (That pink suit above, however, is truly everything. You know I adore pink).

What I love most about the Olsen twins ascent into fashion royalty is the journey they took to get there- their personal style has evolved into something really spare and simple and minimal- but at turns its wacky, vintage inspired, boho, luxe, and everything in between. Their approach to dress is textured and rich and I adore them. They know how to take something comfy (yea the sandals and socks) and make it really chic. Thing is, if you are confident in your womanhood, you're going to look great. These two know that sex may sell, but smarts do as well- their designs and POV are made with smart (and rich- their prices on high end line The Row are bananas) women in mind. To me, they are so modern and cool and uniquely American- a bit rebellious, both feminine and masculine, and effortlessly chic and instantly classic cool. Kudos to them for winning an award last night- they work hard for the money (and they have lots of it) and are fast becoming favs on all fashion radars of late. I look forward to seeing their style develop even further in the years to come- chances are I'll be knocking them off in my own closet too- their looks are endless inspiration and fodder for the wardrobe of my dreams. And really, to me, they are just so New York- a little wacky, a lot cool, and always impeccably dressed.

And beauty wise, they are also hugely influential- almost always with a smoky eye that remains somehow natural and never overdone and gorgeously "no big deal" kind of hair. I also like the line of perfume they did for Sephora, Nirvana White and Black in conjunction with their more bridge brand, Elizabeth and James, which skews more feminine and flirty than The Row's minimalist and mature luxe appeal. The white version is Ashley's and is more floral while MK's black version is more femme/masculine and sandalwood laced. )Guess which one I favor?) Oh, and though both girls have played a bit with haircolor (MK more than Ashley), they know that blonde is best for them- and they redefine what being a power blonde is to a new generation of fans who most likely run to the salon clutching pics of the girls and their enviable flaxen hair.

Regardless, I adore these two. Very glad they got recognized and I'm sure Uncle Jessie would be proud. Cheers, ladies. Here's to coming into your own with confidence and ease. Cause that's what's up this smartly feminine Tuesday in the 212. Yours, in basic black, and then some. XO

Good morning, Monday. I'm sleepy and did spin this morning and my legs felt like straight up LEAD. Ugh. Maybe I should have slept in...

This weekend was beautiful in the city, and we took lots of walks with Khan, spent time with friends, and shopped at our local farmers market. Not a bad weekend- super chill and I even got to read the paper, a Sunday ritual that can sometimes get overlooked in the melee of modern life.

I read with great interest the thought piece in the NY Times called "Why You Hate Work". I laughed at first at how appropriate the article was, appearing in the Sunday paper and such. For many, Sunday night is only lovely because of TV programming (holy shizz GOTS by the way). For most, the prospect of Monday morning "back to it" is anything but a lovefest. That's unfortunate, and like many of you, I yearn for that to change.

I work in an industry where people are expected to work hours that are infamously cuckoo, and many other fields are just as nuts if not worse.  I have always wondered if working all night makes the work better, and to me, it just doesn't. I understand fully that that's how "creative" people work, but at what price to everyone else who is just trying to be productive and stay sane and sound? 

We all know that keeping physically fit and eating well are two huge topics on everyone's minds- with the way we work, it seems out of reach for most of us to even get to the gym. I have to go at 6 am if I want to get it done, because by the end of the day, I'm not in any shape to get on any kind of machine and run for my life- after all, I most likely ran for my life all day. In a different way. I'm just tired as could be, and I don't have kids. I'm not sure how you find time to do anything other than feed yourself and sleep when you have kids, if either of those are even an option.  My point is- we can't be productive people if we have no time to take care of ourselves. If people worked a little less and were able to devote more time to some physical activity or cooking instead of eating microwave popcorn for dinner, perhaps we'd feel better.

As it stands, it's becoming quite clear that today's employers expect an awful lot from all of us- and though they're "investing" in their workforce by paying them a salary and giving them benefits (still paid for by the employee in most cases), I can't help but wonder what all of us get besides said paycheck and benefits? Many of us are past the point of building careers meaning we don't want to work 24/7/365, because we already have.  To me, the work relationship is a two way investment- if someone is investing in hiring you, then you too are also investing in them- hoping that your dream job will yield tremendous satisfaction and utilization of your skills. I'm not sure why the workforce is asked to invest so much of themselves with so little of a return. Isn't that a bad investment after all? Oh, and this is not just for those at a higher level- why should the next gen of talent work like complete lunatics? It's not good for anyone, due paying or otherwise.

Here's five ways I think work should change to reflect who we've become:

Change the where. The way we live and work has completely changed, and as the article points out, digital communication is the biggest harbinger of shifts in the workplace that has taken place since the Industrial Revolution. And really, the word "revolution" is one we should consider employing- because we need a revolution when it comes to how we work. For instance, if a company wants folks to answer emails until they go to sleep, they should change the whole notion of where, as in where we work.  I can only speak for myself and say I'd be much happier answering emails late at night if there were an option to work from home more often. That's a mutual investment that works- you agree to trust me enough to work from anywhere I want, and I will, in return, respond "after hours" if it's necessary from the comfort of my own home, or wherever else I may decide to plug in.

Change the how. Or if a company insists on having everyone live and in person, working hours should span a normal workday, full stop. If any of us are willing to deal with commuting and fighting crowds and buying lunch and sitting in cubicles, we should be able to pack our things at the end of the day and go enjoy the "rest" of our lives. I'm not sure why it's expected that the work day never ends- perhaps employers need to roam the halls less at 7 pm to see who's still at their desks and think more about implementing programs to help people be more productive during the day and work smarter so they don't have to give up their lives in pursuit of their jobs. It's all about investing in your employees here- and trust me, they're worth it.

Change the what. If work defines who we are (in this country anyway), then really, employers and companies should invest in keeping us healthier and happier. Just as the article points out, companies can take a cue from Silicon Valley (where the hours are brutal, ps) and incorporate perks like lunch or discounted food or build office gyms. I think companies should take the time to sponsor those things in an employee's life that make them feel healthy and whole- whether its hiring a trainer to help interested employees run a marathon (competitive spirit and a personal best mindset make better workers, and that's the truth) or allow for anything from sabbaticals (kudos to companies already doing this) to work free hours in the day where people can choose to take a nap or go to the gym or go get a haircut or go see their kid's recital or soccer game.  Maybe the workplace could even become a model of "whole" life- from holding Farmers Markets to cooking classes to yoga. If companies could change the notion of what it means to come to work, perhaps that Sunday night anxiety would simply disappear.

Change the why. My favorite part of the Times piece was a call for more empathic and compassionate leadership at the top of the heap. Too often, today's workforce completes a task or assignment because they are scared to death what will happen if they don't. I think managers and executives need to exercise a culture of compassion and support vs. one of fear and paranoia.  Maybe companies need CCOS, or Chief Compassion Officers. Work and life are harder than ever- showing some kindness and respect and mindful practice would go a long way. Oh, and doing something with purpose is so, so important. I feel today's workforce wonders "why am I doing this" way too often- we're a culture becoming more conscious of the stuff that matters- amidst so much tragedy and stress and constant bombardment of superficial BS. What we do and why we do it needs to matter a whole lot more, whether that means working for a company whose values align with yours, or doing work that feels less draining and more satisfying. I for one would only work full time again if  I felt the company was in line with my values and work style and point of view.

Change the when. Ok so I understand, particularly in advertising, that the notion of being a 24/7/365 operation is very much desired and demanded by today's clients- I wonder if having people work in shifts is a better way to go, or in a broader sense- allow people to work when they want to work, as long as they can complete their projects in the desired timeframe. If someone is a salaried employee, what difference does it make "when" they work? Maybe some people are more productive between 11 am-8 pm. Maybe some prefer working at night. The whole agrarian clock is out the window anyway- I guarantee people would be happier and more productive if they made their own hours. When you give people freedom, they see things in a completely new way. I don't know about you, but I'd be willing to invest in a company (of my time and skills) if they let me work from where and when I wanted. Who could say no to that?

And yea, most of what I say is too radical for a work obsessed/stress envied/strung out workforce. I do think that the next gen of corporate raiders will not stand for such madness when it comes to how they work.  What's more Darwinian than the evolution of work? Because to me, only the smart will survive. And being smart is what's missing from today's workplace, and I'm not talking about how high your IQ is or where your MBA is from. 

And truly, the only way to really do any of the above is to WORK FOR YOURSELF. (That's the who bit I neglect to mention above).

That's what this article really showed- that working in today's workforce is well, a lot of work. If you’re going to toil away, I'd say toil for yourself if at all possible. You are your own best boss, you decide where and when to work, and you decide if what you're doing is really all worth it. I do think we are all in for a tremendous shift in how we work, and it can't come soon enough. The notion of working for oneself is a scary one, and for those of you who can't imagine life without a big company paycheck and benefits, perhaps the answer lies in channeling an entrepreneurial spirit at the office where you presently reside. When I worked at one of the coolest ad agencies in the world for a large chunk of my young life, I never, ever stopped and neither did anyone else. And yea, burnout was common and inevitable, and sure; stress on family life was common. But what was great about where I worked is that we all felt the buzz of a company who believed, at the time, in being indie, entrepreneurial, and scrappy. That you could be trusted to work from anywhere, at any time. That the company provided perks to sometimes make the stress a little less. But working for yourself is a pimp move- if you have the spirit, do it. There’s no substitute for being able to do it your way. Tis the season for success on one’s own terms.

And whether you have your own thing or work for someone else, when employees feel like they are investing in a company by giving their blood, sweat, and tears without reciprocity, things go decidedly South, and fast. My reco would be to go work for yourself if you can, or find a place to work that incorporates that vibe. It's where the future of work is headed, and for companies to survive and recruit the best and brightest, they need to make a major league shift in what work means today. Life’s just too short for being sad on Sunday nights, and not just because “Mad Men” doesn’t come back until 2015.  

And that’s what’s up this workin’ it kind of Monday in the very busy 212. Yours, in paradigm shifts and revolution.  Go be awesome. XO

I'm a ready for ya.  

How chic is this dress from cool brand Paper London ps? I believe it's last season but LOVE this line and this photo in particular- perfectly sums up how I'm feeling- poised for the weekend and in the mood for some tip toed, and of course, stylish fun. What's better than waltzing into Friday night with a bit of a flourish (and a bare leg)? I adore the shape of this dress- spare, minimal, yet somehow super feminine and adorable. So good. (It's just my two cents but she could use a glass of champagne, non? Oui).

But since this one is off the market, how's about this navy strapless version below? Love.  Totally cute and simple and love that it's not black, but close enough to feel perfectly dressed up, though the navy gives it a more casual feel if that is your wont. I'd probably do it with flatter than flat, barely there t-strap sandals, but that's just me. Oh, and a bit of a tan. Don't forget that- faked of course so as not to ruin that gorgeous skin of yours.

Listen it's been a long week- I have not much more to report besides the fact that it's lovely weather and I'm digging the idea of a dress right now, even though of late I'm so very drawn to pants. Pants or no pants, I'm happy it's the weekend. Let's all give it a rest for the next couple of days, ya? Cause that's what's up this well dressed Friday in the 212. Yours, in prettiness. XO

Good morning, Thursday. It's a lovely day in the city- could be hotter for some but for me 68 degrees and sunny is just right.

And speaking of just right, there was another (ahem) wedding last weekend worth mentioning- the wedding of Poppy Delevigne (she of modely model British It Girl fame along with her sister Cara) in Marrakech. I know I've been high on my minimalist horse of late, but you know I am a sucker for boho glam, particularly if one is saying "I do" in a place like Morocco- what a lucky girl. Peter Dundas of Emilio Pucci designed these two stellar looks- I can't account for the groom's "disco" ensemble but SHE. LOOKS. AMAZING. The boho bride is one of my favorites, and if you're the right type of woman for this look, it's a home run. Fabulous.

And since this is Thursday, it's worth shouting out one of my favorite throwbacks, Marisa Berenson and her brand of boho glam that still looks insanely chic till this very day. Poppy's look is straight up flower child/summer of love, while Marisa's take on hippie chic was way more glammed up. I can't get enough. 

In case you haven't picked up on it, MB's style has a lot of headwrap moments and gobs of fab jewelry- being fresh faced and gorgeous doesn't hurt either. Just so in love with her vibe and really boho/sophisto glamazon never goes out of style- truly an iconic example of how to wear looks like this without skewing too music festival and more long weekend in Marrakech. And bonus points for wearing pink, in an ethnic way vs. a super girly way. Rock on. What's not to love???

Cause that's what's up this hippied out Thursday in the 212. Yours, in boho chicness. XO

Good afternoon, Wednesday. I'm sorry for the lack of posts (it's been almost a week) but honestly; I haven't been much in the mood.

With the horrific shooting in California this past weekend, I've been really, really out of sorts.  I've read tons of pieces on everything from gun control to mental illness to misogyny and it's becoming a little bit too easy, in my mind, to identify the symptoms. I'm just wondering why on Earth we can't find the cure? Because we are focused on the wrong stuff.

Perhaps it makes us feel better to figure out "why" but are we really figuring it out? It's beyond true this young, troubled man should have never had access to a gun, hated women and felt entitled to the point of mass murder, and that he had seen a number of mental healthcare professionals and nobody picked up that this was a person that needed some serious help. And as I sat in my apartment over the holiday weekend, I felt helpless, as I often do in this crazy world we live in. I love bringing you my thoughts on fashion, beauty, and inspiration. It brings me great joy, and I hesitated to write a post about how terrible the world is because, well, is that what you want to hear from me? I'm not sure it is, but it needs to be said. Because I believe we're focusing too much on said symptoms and not enough of looking for a cure when it comes to everything that is wrong with society. We are failing our young people and we have to do something about it. Mass murder can't be so common it's unavoidable (the Onion piece on the matter was more than right about that). We are focused on the wrong stuff.

We're obsessing about our bodies, our selves, our midcentury furniture, our electric cars, our normcore designer clothes. We're putting poison in our faces to look younger, we're on plant-based diets, and we're trying desperately to connect in a more and more disconnected, yet digital world. We sigh collectively when tornadoes, earthquakes, and hurricanes occur. We elected our first black President on the basis of hope and change. We have become a society who helps small business through platforms like Kickstarter, an ingenious method for giving that makes it easier than ever to promote the things and people and causes we believe in. Those are all fabulous things. But unfortunately, we're  focused on the wrong stuff.

But here's what we're doing entirely too much- we've entered an era of extreme living that needs to be curbed, and now. We use the word "obsessed" to describe our glee for the latest high-end purse (guilty as charged) to our devotion to the latest flash fad like cronuts. If only we could say we are obsessed with compassion, with giving, with understanding. IF ONLY. We're focused on the wrong stuff.

 And on the other side of the obsessed scale is hatred, and we see that on an almost constant loop. From Elliott Rodger to electing officials who identify with Hitler (this just happened in Germany) to our deep hatred for celebrities we don't even know but love to hate (guilty again), we've got to stop with all of the hate. If only we could hate the things we are really supposed to hate- intolerance, violence, and aggression would be a great place to start. We're focused on the wrong stuff.

As someone who does not have children, I feel guilty telling people how to raise their kids, and I'm not going to do that because honestly, raising children in today's world is a task that is beyond me. But what I will say is we owe it to our next generation to start early in teaching all about compassion- right alongside that French lesson, dance class, or birthday party. There needs to be an education on how to be a good human being, who understands that life is full of challenges and rejection and yes, joy, but also a lot of things that test our humanity and question what it all means to be here in the first place. We can't keep raising young people filled with so much hate, because somehow along the way, mentally ill or not, they did not grow up with a sense of what it means to be "obsessed" with the right things- like being kind to your fellow man or woman, helping others in need, and living an existence free of violence. I feel that we are doing a real disservice to our youth if we are constantly encouraging entitlement of any time- what we are entitled to is a life full of compassion- and that includes for those people and situations in life that more often than not disappoint. Why are we telling young people that can have everything and be whoever they want to and encouraging a "take what you want" point of view? Shouldn't we be teaching them a more mindful approach to being the best person one can be? We're focused on the wrong stuff.

And maybe if we stopped trying to look like a supermodel or act like a celebrity or seek fame or money in ways that are not true to who we are, we could be in a better place. Maybe if we redefined our path with thoughts of how to be a more giving and considerate person vs. how to buy a loft or how to fit into the jeans we wore in high school, we'd be better off. Imagine how successful we could all feel if we just flipped what success really meant? Oh, and look up once in a while. That could help too.  Not a lot wrong with that stuff ps- it's just not enough to make us happy, even though we think that attaining those things will. Stupid humans.  We're focused on the wrong stuff.

And before you label me a Utopian, I'm not, really.  Is it too much to ask for people to start giving a crap about each other? I know there will always be people that feel isolated, that don't fit in, that have deep issues that are beyond most of us to ever comprehend. Often I wonder how to contribute to this world in a bigger way, because the more I chase some notion of what I understand to success, inevitably, I become more miserable.  I may fail from time to time but I do believe that if we all try harder to practice a life that is filled with understanding and an appreciation of how hard this "life" thing is, we could come to a better place. This includes locking up the guns. That's just a fact. I'm sticking with that. Full stop. We're focused on the wrong stuff.

I see glimmers of hope- last night a dog rescue I very much believe in was writing on Facebook at 9 pm to help save a paralyzed dog from a high kill shelter. Many of us saw it and donated money to help get him out- we're waiting to hear but instead of streaming down our feeds and looking at more pics of Kim and Kanye, we focused on the right stuff. Hopefully, that will help this poor pup. We must focus on the right stuff. I'm not sure we have a choice if we have any hope of sustaining this world for ourselves, and our children. We're focused on the wrong stuff.

Listen, I'm not going to stop blogging about shoes and bags and fashion. I love those things. It's just that this has been on my mind for the past few days and I was struggling with how to put it into words, because I know that I try to keep things on the lighter side on this blog, because maybe in my mind I'm giving you a break from all of that suffering, or maybe I want to. But amidst the reality shows and juice cleanses and latest workouts, there's some really hard things happening, and we need to shift our energy away from all of those things that we perceive as making us "better"  (for ourselves) and think long and hard about how we are going to help each other through all of this chaos. I think a more compassionate life is a good place to start, and from a very young age. I'm begging parents of young kids to teach them that though life is going to be filled with struggles, being everything they want is not a one way ticket to entitlement- one should really consider being a "success" as so much more than what we do every day- it's about bringing positive and loving vibes into this fucked up world. How else can we hope to survive?  There is so much judgement, insanity, and terror. We must now focus on the right stuff.

I'm just feeling so upset and jagged that someone could do such a thing, and it's happening more and more with no sign of letting up. There is no reason for any woman, man, or animal to feel fear of these things. We've got to find a  way- you know that song. Sing it, and be it. Because life is not getting any easier, and we have to find a way to more lovingly survive.

Cause that's what's going on this trying to focus on the right stuff kind on Wednesday in the 212. I hope this post was not too heavy, but it was written with love for my friends, family and those who are suffering and trying very hard to cope in this crazy world. I will return to our regularly scheduled blog post but just felt like sharing my thoughts and sending my prayers. Yours, in compassionate living- this post is dedicated to Maya Angelou (RIP), whose life was a stellar example of what it  is to live a well intentioned and meaningful life.  Here's to finding a cure; because we've all seen these symptoms far too many times. XO

Good afternoon, Thursday. Hope you are all gearing up for a lovely and long weekend with friends, family, pets, and whatever makes you happy and relaxed. I'm going to enjoy a little down time and try to do some fun city excursions. Or just sit in my lil yard and read the paper and drink rose. Probably a bit of both...

In honor of TBT (so polarizing the TBT is), I'm posting some super style icons of mine, The Talking Heads. I've said many times that their music had a huge effect on the way I learned to process what "cool" was from a very young age. I would stare at their album covers and always vibed into their particular brand of New York art world chic. And of course, their music was just ALL THAT. 

I think their style is still intriguing to this day because if there are poster peeps for our latest "normcore" moment, it's these kitties. I love that the style is not too over the top (with the exception of couse, to David Byrne's outsized suit he sported during the "Stop Making Sense" days)- it's an "I don't give a crap" kind of vibe that instantly says "I'm cooler than you. You know it. And I know it".

In an era like the late 70s and early 80s, style could get very glammed up and weird and new romanticized and everything else. I love how the band stayed true to their scrappy art school roots (infamous RISD grads) and kept it all cool and casual. Plus, Tina Weymouth. TINA WEYMOUTH. I adore her cute tomboy vibe and always thought she was just the coolest. Still do.

I love the above pic of young David Byrne. He looks amazing and timeless and just plain RAD. Just something so smart about how this band approached pop culture and their awesome style still holds up.

They really were the coolest band- it's usually true that bands that come out of art school are amazing (of late think Yea Yea Yeas and Franz Ferdinand, both of  them met while at art school) and the whole arty pop thing has always made its way into my trajectory. Enjoy these photos of one of my all time favorite bands- style and music were just the best when it comes to a more intellectual approach to music and style making. And that's what's up this psycho killer qu'est-ce que kind of throwback Thursday moment in the art filled 212. Yours, in casual cool. XO