Sometimes you just want to stand out.

And today is a perfect day to do so (it's Thursday for those keeping score).

I love this shot by perennial fav of mine Tommy Ton, during the mens' shows in Milan. Though I may never wear a bright orange suit, and you may not either, have that feeling inside and the rest will follow, I assure you. Just be who you are, show your true colors, and don't be afraid to stand out in a crowd, in a cubicle, or on the bus. Today's a good day to have some cojones, orange or not.  It's a big world out there, and maybe it's time to make a mark. Dress accordingly, or at least be inspired by this very confident look and what it represents, which is an awesome self confidence, quirkiness, and remarkable self expression.

And that's what's up this "sure, I'm eccentric but who gives a fuck" kind of Thursday in the MIA. Today's a good day to blind people with YOU.  Go forth and dazzle. XO

On Liking Stuff

Hi, Wednesday. I am happy because I went to an early spin class, in which great music was played (I like my Wednesday teacher's exploration of the 80s canon) and a good schvitz was had. Amazing how cranky I get when I don't have that on the regular. I just like it too much (no, really).

Speaking of liking stuff, I've become fascinated of late by all the liking we do these days. Some of you may be too young to remember, but when Sally Field won an Academy Award for Places in the Heart back in 1985(I liked that movie), her acceptance speech included the line "I can't deny the fact that you like me, right now, you like me!"". (I like Gidget).

At the time, it was charming, and probably still would be today. But I can't help but think about how many of us are liking stuff so publicly all the time, thanks to the wonders of social media. We simply can't stop liking stuff. It's a bit of a global obsession, all of this liking. And how many times have you hit the like button, even though maybe you don't REALLY like something (do you really, really like Kim's Dry Cleaners? I mean really?). Yet all of this affirmation has to somehow spread something positive, I have to believe that. Plus, it feels good to be liked. Especially in real time. And with every thought we have under the lens of scrutiny in this digital age, it's confirmation that what we're putting out there is in tune with someone else, somewhere else in the universe, instantly. And in case you're a history buff, the like button celebrated its one year anniversary in April of this year. (I like history).

Of course, there's an awful lot of hating going on out there too, in the form of angry message boards and tweets about everything from politics to how crappy that new waxing spot is to celebrities who can't seem to keep their mouths shut (Roger Ebert's reaction to Ryan Dunn's passing seemed a bit insensitive to me -dislike).

We have become a culture of public likes and dislikes, and that's that- you like stuff, I like stuff, Khan likes stuff. That's the way it is. And if you feel like hating, well then, go right ahead. It has become essential to our communications as humans to express ourselves in terms of digging and not digging stuff. What is the psychology of "like" culture anyway? It must have something to do with our desperate need to connect with others, or our desire to act more like Sally Field. In any event, it's a big part of how we present online and the profile we share with the world. And it's a cool way to show support for your friends. Whatever the reason, it's fascinating to me. I wish a like button existed in the non digital space, as well as a dislike, distrust, despise, and you are just okay one. But alas, I'll have to keep my in person judgements to myself, and continue to like stuff online, where it's cool to do so. (I like this approach)

And that's what's up this you should like this post immediately kind of Thursday in the MIA (I'll like you back). XO

 

 

Long Live Print

Hi, sexy denizens of the internet. It's Tuesday and it's sunny and all is not lost...particularly my favorite medium, print.

I know this makes me sound a bit like a teradactyl (because they romanticize print, naturally), but I made a career for years producing photography for all things print. And like many people who work(ed) in the same world as me, it's been a bit of a winge-worthy time- with all things digital taking over, it's tough to think about what may happen to the print medium, though I do love all things digital and am fully connected- but give me a newspaper or magazine to read on a Sunday, and give it to me on paper. I am still smitten by the tangible. Sue me. Newsprint is sexy and that's that.

Apparently my favorite read in the nail salon knows that too. In Style is doing a scratch n sniff issue for July, with lovely Summer smells (clearly New York City in August is not one of them) like watermelon, grass, suntan lotion, popcorn and iced coffee.. I love that they're investing a concept into the print book- and who doesn't love a scratch n sniff, really? Perhaps more mags will follow suit and incorporate more sensory bells and whistles to enhance the print experience? Or billboards and out of home could include some smoke and mirrors, maybe even literally?

And then I found this lovely candle, that smells of newsprint. I want. I must have. Let the Times burn bright and such. The scent is, according to Refinery29, "in a word, newsy, with hints of guaiacwood, cedar, musk, spice, with 'a powdery note and velvet nuance,' meant to mimic the aroma of black ink on newsprint".The candle, made in a limited-edition run of 1,000, is available for $65 at Project No. 8 at Ace Hotel and Bondtoo.com. Be smart and go buy one.

Long live print, peeps. I am still a superfan and somehow can't get enough- just finding time to read all of this stuff in between blogging, social networking, and once in a while, living is the real challenge. Cause that's what's up this touchy feely smelly Tuesday in the MIA. Big ups to my folks in print. Let's keep this thing going.  XO

Midnight in Paris...or Monday in Miami...

Split the difference?

Good morning, Monday...lovely weekend, capped off by catching Woody Allen's newest film, "Midnight in Paris". The movie had me at the opening sequence- with a beautiful montage of Paris, Woody's mistress (refrain from thoughts of Soon Yi, please. I'm stuck in a moment). And what a lover she is- beautiful, heaving, poetic, and magical. Just as I remembered it from our recent trip there. I won't give away any more details of the film, but if you are prone to romantic agony, of why life these days feels sort of useless, unsettling, and unfulfilled, this is one for the cut of your Rimbaud reading jib.

But besides a beautiful setting, I love Woody's other muses, the women in his movies. Rachel McAdams plays a bitchy American to Owen Wilson's hapless LA rookie novelist, while Carla Bruni makes an appearance as a gorgeous tour guide- I can see why empires could fall at her pretty feet. She is absolutely stunning. And then of course, the lovely gaminish Marion Cotillard, the prototypical French beauty. They are all beautiful in their own way, and it's not lost on me how a big part of why I love the Wood Man's movies is that they are stylish as hell. I loved the wardrobe in the film- done by Sonia Grande, who he also worked with on "Vicky Cristina Barcelona". (PS- I mistakenly called Marion Audrey Tatou when I first wrote this post...I am trying to kick coffee and this is what happens...thanks to my friend Alex for pointing it out.)

 

I love Rachel McAdams in her lovely shirtdresses,belted high and low,  with heels and an array of purses that would make most women swoon- all of the French variety, naturally. Her look in the film is very American- high heels and jeans but done with grace and an athletic sexiness that I associate with American beauty.

And Carla Bruni, looking casual and sexy in that "what, this old thing" French way that surpasses trends and gets to the heart of what good dressing is all about- being comfortable in your own skin. True, her skin is nicer than most, but her elegance was not lost on me.

Marion Cotillard, the character who is based in the 1920s Paris of Gertrude Stein and Hemingway, does a great turn as Coco Chanel disciple in fabulous flapper frocks, loose but sexy and not a hint of vulgarity. That's what I love about Woody's gals- they are always sexy as could be but never garish, or in your face. True, he always portrays affluence in his films, and these characters capture that affluent elegance that runs a thread through most of his films.

So if you are feeling a bit blue today and missing the weekend, maybe go see this movie tonight and get inspired- it's not easy to live a romantic life or pretend you are the heroine of a Woody Allen film, but at least for a few hours, you can be transported there- and then take what you want to bring into your own life, point of view, and above all, closet. J'adore...there's a part of each of these girls in my walk-in, that's for sure.

And that's what's up this simply stylish Monday in the MIA. Have a great day wherever you are, and don't forget to dream a little. XO

One Hot Read

Hi, Friday...you are here and sexier than ever. How do you continue to woo me so? Each week I fall madly in love with you, again.

So a friend of mine posted this on Facebook yesterday, this amazing shot of Monroe reading, of all things, Ulysses. Not a quick read, I'll have you know...and don't you just love the pre Prada stripe of her top? Amazing. Reading is sexy, in case you didn't know..embrace the classics this weekend and read something hot...that's all I've got. More next week. I have much reading to do - going into the classic canon but don't want to sound pretentious and tell you what I'm reading...

And that's what's up this Flaubert of a Friday in the MIA. Have a bookish weekend. XO

Hey, Men...Women don't want your naked pictures...

Hiya, Thursday. I have loads to do but will make this brief- Anthony Weiner is kaput, according to a Huff Post headline a few moments ago. I'm not sure how he could be so stupid, but damned if now is not an excellent time to make a living in PR...

Anyway, let me be blunt. I am not sure if you men realize this, but very few of us like a full frontal photo of your parts. It's true we love a sexy bare chest, but have some bottoms on- they can be boxer briefs, Levis (preferred), or shorts. But honestly, we do love you and think you're hot but what makes you think we need to see that? I know it's a different story when it comes to women- you'd love to see us nekkid, any chance you get..but in my mind, Anthony Weiner is unattractive to begin with, so why on Earth would anyone want to see him naked? Is it me? Am I getting old? Back me up here, girls. We love men and we love their bodies, but are somehow not turned on by nude photos. They are no bueno. Can I speak for y'all? Can I?

Sure it looks like he spends lots of time doing P90X, or American Psycho style crunches, perhaps listening to Huey Lewis or Phil Collins. But Anthony,  a jacket is required. Or something...please. Ick. Early in the career of yours truly, I interviewed at Playgirl to be assistant to the publisher and PR assistant. I looked at loads of pics of man parts and decided this was not a gig for me, perhaps only on an empty stomach. There were shots of twins, farm boys, city guys, romance novel types- all with an endowment of epic proportion. Still, I was not impressed, though the thought of producing these kind of shoots had appeal for a minute or two. Or maybe I just wanted to piss off mom and dad, or have a chapter in my memoirs devoted to my life in the c*ck trade. (I ended up in advertising instead...)

I have loads more to say about men behaving badly, etc. but everybody else has already said it. I'm not hatin' on the male physique, but clearly these power men don't realize that most women don't like those kind of saucy photos. We like photos of you on the beach, maybe hanging on your balcony, chillin' with your dog. Whatever...but this? Ick again. I do like the David statue though, captured in marble by Michelangelo is ok, I  suppose. I'll let it slide..

That's my take...I gots work to do so gotta go. My message for you today is: keep it in your pants, boys. At least when it comes to photos...

And that's what's up (or now down) this keepin' it under wraps Thursday in the MIA. XO

 

For your summer reading pleasure...

Good morning- it's Wednesday, and well, so it is. I crave the time in life when we had summers off- to laze in the sun, sleep late, and above all, read. As a young girl my appetite for reading was enormous, and I miss having the luxury of time and attention span required to enjoy a good read. I was talking to someone the other day about one of my favorite authors (yes I really was), Guy de Maupassant, a Frenchman who published many of my favorite short stories. The Necklace or in French La Parure,   is a short story first published in 1884 in the French newspaper Le Gaulois, and it is one of my all time loves- I can read it over and over again and never get bored.  It's enchanting.  

It's also a charming tale of beauty, notions of value, illusion, and things not always being what they seem, and that vanity is essentially worthles. I have always adored it for its softness and simplicity and message...I hope you enjoy it too...pasted in below. Cause that's what's up this bookish Wednesday in the MIA. XO

The Necklace

She was one of those pretty and charming girls born, as though fate had blundered over her, into a family of artisans. She had no marriage portion, no expectations, no means of getting known, understood, loved, and wedded by a man of wealth and distinction; and she let herself be married off to a little clerk in the Ministry of Education. Her tastes were simple because she had never been able to afford any other, but she was as unhappy as though she had married beneath her; for women have no caste or class, their beauty, grace, and charm serving them for birth or family, their natural delicacy, their instinctive elegance, their nimbleness of wit, are their only mark of rank, and put the slum girl on a level with the highest lady in the land.

 She suffered endlessly, feeling herself born for every delicacy and luxury. She suffered from the poorness of her house, from its mean walls, worn chairs, and ugly curtains. All these things, of which other women of her class would not even have been aware, tormented and insulted her. The sight of the little Breton girl who came to do the work in her little house aroused heart-broken regrets and hopeless dreams in her mind. She imagined silent antechambers, heavy with Oriental tapestries, lit by torches in lofty bronze sockets, with two tall footmen in knee-breeches sleeping in large arm-chairs, overcome by the heavy warmth of the stove. She imagined vast saloons hung with antique silks, exquisite pieces of furniture supporting priceless ornaments, and small, charming, perfumed rooms, created just for little parties of intimate friends, men who were famous and sought after, whose homage roused every other woman's envious longings.

When she sat down for dinner at the round table covered with a three-days-old cloth, opposite her husband, who took the cover off the soup-tureen, exclaiming delightedly: "Aha! Scotch broth! What could be better?" she imagined delicate meals, gleaming silver, tapestries peopling the walls with folk of a past age and strange birds in faery forests; she imagined delicate food served in marvellous dishes, murmured gallantries, listened to with an inscrutable smile as one trifled with the rosy flesh of trout or wings of asparagus chicken.

 She had no clothes, no jewels, nothing. And these were the only things she loved; she felt that she was made for them. She had longed so eagerly to charm, to be desired, to be wildly attractive and sought after.

 

 She had a rich friend, an old school friend whom she refused to visit, because she suffered so keenly when she returned home. She would weep whole days, with grief, regret, despair, and misery.

*

One evening her husband came home with an exultant air, holding a large envelope in his hand.

     "Here's something for you," he said.

     Swiftly she tore the paper and drew out a printed card on which were these words:

     "The Minister of Education and Madame Ramponneau request the pleasure of the company of Monsieur and Madame Loisel at the Ministry on the evening of Monday, January the 18th."

     Instead of being delighted, as her husband hoped, she flung the invitation petulantly across the table, murmuring:

     "What do you want me to do with this?"

     "Why, darling, I thought you'd be pleased. You never go out, and this is a great occasion. I had tremendous trouble to get it. Every one wants one; it's very select, and very few go to the clerks. You'll see all the really big people there."

     She looked at him out of furious eyes, and said impatiently: "And what do you suppose I am to wear at such an affair?"

     He had not thought about it; he stammered:

     "Why, the dress you go to the theatre in. It looks very nice, to me . . ."

     He stopped, stupefied and utterly at a loss when he saw that his wife was beginning to cry. Two large tears ran slowly down from the corners of her eyes towards the corners of her mouth.

     "What's the matter with you? What's the matter with you?" he faltered.

     But with a violent effort she overcame her grief and replied in a calm voice, wiping her wet cheeks:

     "Nothing. Only I haven't a dress and so I can't go to this party. Give your invitation to some friend of yours whose wife will be turned out better than I shall."

     He was heart-broken.

     "Look here, Mathilde," he persisted. "What would be the cost of a suitable dress, which you could use on other occasions as well, something very simple?"

     She thought for several seconds, reckoning up prices and also wondering for how large a sum she could ask without bringing upon herself an immediate refusal and an exclamation of horror from the careful-minded clerk.

     At last she replied with some hesitation:

     "I don't know exactly, but I think I could do it on four hundred francs."

     He grew slightly pale, for this was exactly the amount he had been saving for a gun, intending to get a little shooting next summer on the plain of Nanterre with some friends who went lark-shooting there on Sundays.

     Nevertheless he said: "Very well. I'll give you four hundred francs. But try and get a really nice dress with the money."

     The day of the party drew near, and Madame Loisel seemed sad, uneasy and anxious. Her dress was ready, however. One evening her husband said to her:

     "What's the matter with you? You've been very odd for the last three days."

     "I'm utterly miserable at not having any jewels, not a single stone, to wear," she replied. "I shall look absolutely no one. I would almost rather not go to the party."

   "Wear flowers," he said. "They're very smart at this time of the year. For ten francs you could get two or three gorgeous roses."

     She was not convinced.

     "No . . . there's nothing so humiliating as looking poor in the middle of a lot of rich women."

     "How stupid you are!" exclaimed her husband. "Go and see Madame Forestier and ask her to lend you some jewels. You know her quite well enough for that."

     She uttered a cry of delight.

     "That's true. I never thought of it."

     Next day she went to see her friend and told her her trouble.

     Madame Forestier went to her dressing-table, took up a large box, brought it to Madame Loisel, opened it, and said:

     "Choose, my dear."

     First she saw some bracelets, then a pearl necklace, then a Venetian cross in gold and gems, of exquisite workmanship. She tried the effect of the jewels before the mirror, hesitating, unable to make up her mind to leave them, to give them up. She kept on asking:

     "Haven't you anything else?"

     "Yes. Look for yourself. I don't know what you would like best."

     Suddenly she discovered, in a black satin case, a superb diamond necklace; her heart began to beat covetously. Her hands trembled as she lifted it. She fastened it round her neck, upon her high dress, and remained in ecstasy at sight of herself.

     Then, with hesitation, she asked in anguish:

     "Could you lend me this, just this alone?"

     "Yes, of course."

     She flung herself on her friend's breast, embraced her frenziedly, and went away with her treasure. The day of the party arrived. Madame Loisel was a success. She was the prettiest woman present, elegant, graceful, smiling, and quite above herself with happiness. All the men stared at her, inquired her name, and asked to be introduced to her. All the Under-Secretaries of State were eager to waltz with her. The Minister noticed her.

     She danced madly, ecstatically, drunk with pleasure, with no thought for anything, in the triumph of her beauty, in the pride of her success, in a cloud of happiness made up of this universal homage and admiration, of the desires she had aroused, of the completeness of a victory so dear to her feminine heart.

     She left about four o'clock in the morning. Since midnight her husband had been dozing in a deserted little room, in company with three other men whose wives were having a good time. He threw over her shoulders the garments he had brought for them to go home in, modest everyday clothes, whose poverty clashed with the beauty of the ball-dress. She was conscious of this and was anxious to hurry away, so that she should not be noticed by the other women putting on their costly furs.

     Loisel restrained her.

     "Wait a little. You'll catch cold in the open. I'm going to fetch a cab."

     But she did not listen to him and rapidly descended the staircase. When they were out in the street they could not find a cab; they began to look for one, shouting at the drivers whom they saw passing in the distance.

     They walked down towards the Seine, desperate and shivering. At last they found on the quay one of those old nightprowling carriages which are only to be seen in Paris after dark, as though they were ashamed of their shabbiness in the daylight.

     It brought them to their door in the Rue des Martyrs, and sadly they walked up to their own apartment. It was the end, for her. As for him, he was thinking that he must be at the office at ten.

     She took off the garments in which she had wrapped her shoulders, so as to see herself in all her glory before the mirror. But suddenly she uttered a cry. The necklace was no longer round her neck!

     "What's the matter with you?" asked her husband, already half undressed.

     She turned towards him in the utmost distress.

     "I . . . I . . . I've no longer got Madame Forestier's necklace. . . ."

     He started with astonishment.

     "What! . . . Impossible!"

     They searched in the folds of her dress, in the folds of the coat, in the pockets, everywhere. They could not find it.

     "Are you sure that you still had it on when you came away from the ball?" he asked.

     "Yes, I touched it in the hall at the Ministry."

     "But if you had lost it in the street, we should have heard it fall."

     "Yes. Probably we should. Did you take the number of the cab?"

     "No. You didn't notice it, did you?"

     "No."

     They stared at one another, dumbfounded. At last Loisel put on his clothes again.

     "I'll go over all the ground we walked," he said, "and see if I can't find it."

     And he went out. She remained in her evening clothes, lacking strength to get into bed, huddled on a chair, without volition or power of thought.

     Her husband returned about seven. He had found nothing.

     He went to the police station, to the newspapers, to offer a reward, to the cab companies, everywhere that a ray of hope impelled him.

     She waited all day long, in the same state of bewilderment at this fearful catastrophe.

     Loisel came home at night, his face lined and pale; he had discovered nothing.

     "You must write to your friend," he said, "and tell her that you've broken the clasp of her necklace and are getting it mended. That will give us time to look about us."

     She wrote at his dictation.

*

By the end of a week they had lost all hope.

     Loisel, who had aged five years, declared:

     "We must see about replacing the diamonds."

     Next day they took the box which had held the necklace and went to the jewellers whose name was inside. He consulted his books.

     "It was not I who sold this necklace, Madame; I must have merely supplied the clasp."

     Then they went from jeweller to jeweller, searching for another necklace like the first, consulting their memories, both ill with remorse and anguish of mind.

     In a shop at the Palais-Royal they found a string of diamonds which seemed to them exactly like the one they were looking for. It was worth forty thousand francs. They were allowed to have it for thirty-six thousand.

     They begged the jeweller not to sell it for three days. And they arranged matters on the understanding that it would be taken back for thirty-four thousand francs, if the first one were found before the end of February.

     Loisel possessed eighteen thousand francs left to him by his father. He intended to borrow the rest.

     He did borrow it, getting a thousand from one man, five hundred from another, five louis here, three louis there. He gave notes of hand, entered into ruinous agreements, did business with usurers and the whole tribe of money-lenders. He mortgaged the whole remaining years of his existence, risked his signature without even knowing if he could honour it, and, appalled at the agonising face of the future, at the black misery about to fall upon him, at the prospect of every possible physical privation and moral torture, he went to get the new necklace and put down upon the jeweller's counter thirty-six thousand francs.

     When Madame Loisel took back the necklace to Madame Forestier, the latter said to her in a chilly voice:

     "You ought to have brought it back sooner; I might have needed it."

     She did not, as her friend had feared, open the case. If she had noticed the substitution, what would she have thought? What would she have said? Would she not have taken her for a thief?

*

Madame Loisel came to know the ghastly life of abject poverty. From the very first she played her part heroically. This fearful debt must be paid off. She would pay it. The servant was dismissed. They changed their flat; they took a garret under the roof.

     She came to know the heavy work of the house, the hateful duties of the kitchen. She washed the plates, wearing out her pink nails on the coarse pottery and the bottoms of pans. She washed the dirty linen, the shirts and dish-cloths, and hung them out to dry on a string; every morning she took the dustbin down into the street and carried up the water, stopping on each landing to get her breath. And, clad like a poor woman, she went to the fruiterer, to the grocer, to the butcher, a basket on her arm, haggling, insulted, fighting for every wretched halfpenny of her money.

     Every month notes had to be paid off, others renewed, time gained.

     Her husband worked in the evenings at putting straight a merchant's accounts, and often at night he did copying at twopence-halfpenny a page.

     And this life lasted ten years.

     At the end of ten years everything was paid off, everything, the usurer's charges and the accumulation of superimposed interest.

     Madame Loisel looked old now. She had become like all the other strong, hard, coarse women of poor households. Her hair was badly done, her skirts were awry, her hands were red. She spoke in a shrill voice, and the water slopped all over the floor when she scrubbed it. But sometimes, when her husband was at the office, she sat down by the window and thought of that evening long ago, of the ball at which she had been so beautiful and so much admired.

     What would have happened if she had never lost those jewels. Who knows? Who knows? How strange life is, how fickle! How little is needed to ruin or to save!

     One Sunday, as she had gone for a walk along the Champs-Elysees to freshen herself after the labours of the week, she caught sight suddenly of a woman who was taking a child out for a walk. It was Madame Forestier, still young, still beautiful, still attractive.

     Madame Loisel was conscious of some emotion. Should she speak to her? Yes, certainly. And now that she had paid, she would tell her all. Why not?

     She went up to her.

     "Good morning, Jeanne."

     The other did not recognise her, and was surprised at being thus familiarly addressed by a poor woman.

     "But . . . Madame . . ." she stammered. "I don't know . . . you must be making a mistake."

     "No . . . I am Mathilde Loisel."

     Her friend uttered a cry.

     "Oh! . . . my poor Mathilde, how you have changed! . . ."

     "Yes, I've had some hard times since I saw you last; and many sorrows . . . and all on your account."

     "On my account! . . . How was that?"

     "You remember the diamond necklace you lent me for the ball at the Ministry?"

     "Yes. Well?"

     "Well, I lost it."

     "How could you? Why, you brought it back."

     "I brought you another one just like it. And for the last ten years we have been paying for it. You realise it wasn't easy for us; we had no money. . . . Well, it's paid for at last, and I'm glad indeed."

     Madame Forestier had halted.

     "You say you bought a diamond necklace to replace mine?"

     "Yes. You hadn't noticed it? They were very much alike."

     And she smiled in proud and innocent happiness.

     Madame Forestier, deeply moved, took her two hands.

     "Oh, my poor Mathilde! But mine was imitation. It was worth at the very most five hundred francs! . . . "

Traveling Light with LL Bean...

Good morning, sweet little Tuesday. The humidity is high as are the temperatures here in MIami, and I for one am grateful for the a/c. That may be true, but as usual my mind is wandering to traveling and rocking my gypsy soul.

And speaking of traveling, I wish I was one of those girls that knew how to travel light. I often travel in the style of a 19th century heiress, sans the fancy steamer trunks (maybe more like a B list pop star). I can't seem to figure out how to pack light- between the jewelry, scarves, products, and countless wraps and Alex Wang tee shirt dresses, I am never willing to sacrifice a crucial piece that I just know at some point I will want to put on.

Not to mention what I schlep around every day when I'm not traveling. I think as a carryover from the New York days, I simply must carry a big bag- filled with all of my stuff and then some. Oh and big bags are slimming while little bags make the hips look big, this much I know. You can have location, for me, it's all proportion.

But then I glimpsed through LL Bean's summer offerings and fell head over heels in love with this cute little clutch. I love a clutch but only usually consider them for evening for some reason due to the aforementioned enormity of my day bags (I'm currently rocking my Hunter tote which I'm obsessed with). This one is a cute little look for daytime, for those of you that are carefree enough to carry little more than your keys, a lipstick, and your phone. I love the idea of a casual clutch like this- and the denim and natural leather thing is super cute with your favorite white shirtdress or khaki pants. Maybe, it's time for me to unload a bit, in life and in my purse. I think it would be liberating, and summer is all about freedom, right? Is it time to put my purse on a diet?  And for $39, you won't be enslaved by your credit card. Freedom is cheap, indeed.

Oh and PS, I still have my men in duckboots fetish. There's simply nothing cuter than some sinewy dude rocking them. I love the summer version pictured here. Divine. Perfection. Accompanied by a cute boy with a good novel and a nice smile- golden. Go forth and buy some Bean, particularly from the signature collection if you skew more fashion forward- the accessories are particularly tops. A bit of preppy works for me in the warm months, mixed in with a load of boho for good measure. It's all about getting the balance right, non?

And that's what's up this clutch Tuesday in the MIA. XO

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What kind of bar are you?

Good mornin' Monday...let's not talk about basketball anymore, ok? I am relieved it's all over but what a ride it was.

So David and I were shuffling some songs this am during morning drive time, and "Waiting on a Friend" came on. Not only is this a great song and amazing video, but it also showcases one of my favorite old bars in NYC, the St. Marks Bar. I used to hang there when I first moved to New York and drink Jack and Cokes. Strangely enough, David used to hang there too- it was just a cool, kind of shitty chic, rock and roll bar. They always played good music, and there was always the slight hint that someone like Keith would come in. Never happened for me, but still had a great time there. I was too young for Max's Kansas City though I can imagine it would have been somewhere I would have gone every night. One can only imagine the revelry...

Last week, two of my girlfriends and I were having a Stella at the Spring Street Lounge, another great little boite in New York City. It's not much really- but there's great beer on tap, wood floors, and huge windows of which to observe all the cute people strolling through Nolita. My friend Andrea mentioned that if she were to have a bar, it would look and feel very much like Spring Street Lounge, which made me think- you can tell a lot about a person by what kind of bar they'd like to own. Andrea is a no bullshit kind of girl who loves beer and baseball and a laid back vibe. My friend Rebecca wanted a more loungey bar- with low seating and dim lighting and a cool, chilled out feel. Rebecca is a chic woman who likes to wear good shoes and handbags but is also not really the mega club type, though a sexy lounge is more up her alley. As for me, I'd go for a bar in my favorite genre- the rock and roll bar. I have extolled its virtues on this blog- bars like St. Jerome's on the Lower East Side, Three of Cups in the East Village, The Whiskey Bar in the Paramount (back in the day, natch- when all the waitresses wore catsuits), and the bar in the Sunset Marquis in LA. Oh and who could forget the glory days of Don Hill's, one of the best bars to ever exist? Oh those Squeezebox days...

If I owned a bar it would be rock and roll all the way, with some hip hop mixed in for good measure- dark, intimate, and with bartenders who look good in skinny leather pants- both male and female. Perhaps there would be an original print of Keith from the Exile days, maybe there would be a Bowie night (probably Wednesdays), and there would most definitely not be any irony in the drinks- as much as I love cool cocktails, I think my bar would know how to make the perfect bourbon and water, with maybe a signature drink like the dark and stormy, an all time favorite. There would be vintage rugs and comfortable chairs and feel a bit like like that sick house in the movie Laurel Canyon- rock and roll but not dirty, a bit more chic. In any event, I would love it to be the kind of place bands come after a gig, the cast of SNL might pop in after the after party, and folks could just come and hang out and be surrounded by like minded music geeks, mixed in with local artists, mad ones, and raconteurs. Oh and maybe I could even have rock and roll book club- an idea I had ages ago where rock kids could meet and read a different rock bio a month, and discuss (the rock book genre is one I am well versed in. I can't get enough).

What does this say about me? I'm not entirely sure, draw your own conclusions. It's a fun exercise nonetheless. So I ask you, on this manic Monday, what type of bar are you, anyway? And can we hang out there?

Cause that's what's up this St. Marks of a Monday in the MIA. Bottoms up. XO

On Basketball and Connection and Bagels and New York

 

Hiya, weekend. I love you so much. I know I never write on the weekends but felt compelled to share this, and I'm not good at waiting until Monday when I have something to say...hope you're having a great weekend and back on Monday with more of my musings...enjoy this little post from the friendly skies. And yes, that is a picture of John Starks. More on that below.

I am writing tfrom the air because I never have time and this is a good a place as any. I’m listening to Joy Division (IPod is on shuffle), drinking a Diet Coke, and thinking about how fortunate I feel to be entering a new phase of my life. It’s a joy to feel confident in what you are doing, even if the road is not yet clear, I have every confidence that it will soon reveal itself, and it’s going to be the best ride yet.

But in other news, I realize what I miss most about New York- besides my beautiful friends, the insane shopping (good insane), and the fabulous food- it’s those moments. Those moments that inspire you to live another day, to engage in another conversation, and to thank the Lord you’re alive. I’m specifically talking about the power of connection in New York- because even before life went social, NYC was a city where you were forced to connect, all day every day. You need to tell your cabbie where you’re headed. You need to ask for coffee at the deli (light and sweet). You exchange knowing glances on the subway about the freak who is singing Taylor Swift songs at the top of their lungs, and that connection is great because it’s totally non verbal and done with the eyes.When I first moved to New York it freaked me out how much people look at you in the city- not just because you have a nice rack but because they're scanning you and vibing with you and trying to see if you're going to change their life in some way. Or else you have a really nice rack, but that's not here nor there. But back to my craving for a good New York moment.

I’ll give you a good example- I got into a cab on Thursday of last week to meet with some friends by Bryant Park for breakfast. My cab driver was a friendly sort, with solid a/c on a ridiculously hot day. I immediately liked him.

We started to chat, and don't ask me how, but we started talking about basketball. Turns out this Indonesian cab driver used to shoot hoops in Indonesia as a boy and moved to America so he could be around the best basketball in the whole world. I’m not kidding- he wanted to move to America and watch all of his favorite teams play (he’s hopeful for the Knicks next season, but who isn’t really) and be surrounded by b ball culture. I found his story incredibly inspiring- he was born a Christian in Indonesia, a largely Muslim country where he often felt like an outsider. But in the States, he has found his happiness, and he and his wife and three year old son are happy as could be. And he takes the wife and kid to watch him play basketball every Sunday, somewhere in Queens. And apparently the 3 year old has a way with the soft ball and hoop my divine cabbie has for him in their living room.

See how much I found out about another human being, who I probably would never have had the chance or good fortune to meet anywhere else. This lovely man and I chatted about every team in the NBA- about how I grew up in Philadelphia in the halcyon days of the 76ers, how I moved to NYC in the early 90s when the Knicks were in their prime and I used to go to the Garden often to watch them play- the days of Patrick Ewing, John Starks (punk that he was), and other cool cats like Anthony Mason. These were fun memories, and it was so much fun to talk about them. His opinion on my latest hometown team, The Heat, was not as fantastic (everybody in New York hates Lebron. Full stop.) It was such an amazing conversation- it made me realize we need more people like my friend in this country- to appreciate it and love it for all its quirks and be happy to chat with a girl like me about basketball as we battled the midtown rush hour. And if you are a creative soul that needs inspiration to fuel your brain, there is no better place than New York- because immediately I can think of a character sketch of the Indonesian cabbie who moved to America because of basketball. Not only did I connect with him through a common appreciation for Dr. J, but I connected with his story and it inspired me to write this. PS my driver coming home the evening of Game 4 of The Heat vs. Dallas was from Dallas, and was gloating big time...sacre bleu).

I miss this kind of connecting- this eagerness to share stories, to voice opinions, to banter back and forth with a complete stranger. And maybe in this age of social media, I crave real connections like this even more. I miss the deadpan humor of the white lab coated counter peeps at Russ and Daughters, where I went with my pal Rebecca and ate my fav sandwich of life, the Super Heeb. The guys (and a few gals) who work there are hilarious. They are of an era of schticky humor, but it’s really all about the delivery, and I for one would pay good money not just for their delicious sandwiches and babka, but also for an evening at a Comedy Club where each of these cats gets 5 minutes.

So as we are waiting in line for our sandwiches at the counter, dreaming of whitefish salad and wasabi roe, the dude next to me, hipster Ray Banned out, orders a lox and bagel with cream cheese (already I myself am judging him as a tourist with his vanilla choice).

The Joey Bishop looking counter guy gave him the once over and asked him, “What flavor cream cheese do you want?” and proceeded to list the amazing options.

 The guys said, after much thought, “I think I’ll just have plain”, to which the counter guy, eyebrow raised, simply replied, quietly, “Oh yea?” and bowed his head in disinterest, Ray Bans choice was less than exciting (see it’s not as good when I tell it, but it was amazing).

So much was said in that, as in how can you order plain when you can have so much more, to which Rebecca and I broke up in laughter, knowing we were witnessing a funny moment where a true New York character zings an unsuspecting dude who just likes things a little plain. As a girl who usually speaks my mind and is more than a bit sarcastic, I appreciate all of this beyond belief, and it’s hard to live without. That and when I asked my counter guy why they don’t open a Russ and D in Miami he simply replied, “because Miami sucks”. Alrighty then.

And I guess New Yorkers are the only peeps I feel that real soulful connection with anyway- and that’s the way it will always be. I adore that city more than anything and know that it can be a bitch to live in, but the power of connection trumps everything else in this here human experience, and that’s that. That and the uncanny brilliance of no bullshit- don’t sugercoat my messages, please. If you think Miami, my haircut, or my choice of cream cheese sucks, tell me. Just tell me. Is that too much to ask?

If you live in New York, feel lucky that you get to be around these mad ones all the time. It’s not to be trifled with. If you are not so lucky, I suppose you must make your own connections, with the people that are around you each and every day, who may surprise you with their stories. Because life is all about stories, whether creating your own or listening to someone else’s. And I love in New York, there's just always someone to talk to. And that’s what’s up this connected Saturday in the MIA. Keep in touch, won’t you? (Oh and why would you have plain, when you can have so much more?) XO